Everyone has heard the saying “what you don’t know won’t hurt you“……..
But….is this really true?
I know someone who makes a lot of money on the premise of this phase. He provides a service to people that call him because they need someone to make their living environment a healthier place to live in.
This person does absolutely nothing right in front of their eyes, but convinces them that he has just saved their lives and the lives of their babies and walks out with a check for thousands of dollars.
When I ask him how he feels about steeling money from people daily, his answer is that the customers are happy with his services and can sleep better at night and therefore he deserves the money that they are willingly paying him.
What they don’t know won’t hurt them.
In this case, it even helps them.
Yes, there are cases that lying becomes a critical problem for the person lied to and the liar, but the consequences end up being an appropriate punishment which fits the crime……I am not talking about these cases. These cases take care of themselves.
My question is how bad is lying, when the lie doesn’t hurt anyone and no one is the wiser to it?
In my opinion, very, very, very bad.
And….not because it is “bad” thing to do. Sometimes lying has no bad intentions behind it.
I believe that untruths are bad because they are not real.
By lying, you are contributing untruth to the world.
Untruths are fictional.
Fiction is fantasy.
Believing in fantasy is the same as being “crazy”.
Let me put this in another way……
When you lie to another person and they believe your lie, you are in essence contributing to the makings of a crazy (mentally deranged) person.
When there are many, many lies told to that same person and that person believes them, eventually the bubble will burst and that person will become certifiably crazy from the shock that the fantasy that they have been living in is not real – or true.
W e can easily understand this if we were to use the analogy of a husband and wife. If a husband continuously lies to his wife, even though the wife does not know that he is lying to her, eventually one of those lies will inevitably be revealed (due to odds), and the wife will immediately wonder what else her husband has lied about and slowly but surely she will unravel and by all definitions will become “crazy”. (anyone remember Lorena Bobbit?).
What if the wife never finds out and eventually passes away leaving children behind. What if one day the children find out about all the lies that their father has told and they have to come to the realization that their own father was not the man that they thought he was? Would they take this lightly…..or….would they most likely have some sort of mental breakdown in order to process this new information? How would they feel after finding out that their world with their father was only a fantasy?
Now lets make another analogy on a larger scale.
Let’s say that there is a man that decides to teach people something that he feels to be true but it is his feeling and therefore hard to communicate into words, but he has so much charisma and leadership qualities that his followers truly believe his teachings – despite the fact that they may not fully understand them……but he is there to guide them for some time. Eventually this man will pass away, but his teachings will live on. Generations pass and more and more followers decide to accept the teachings of this man only because so many others have.
Now, what if there were a few men that decided to alter the original man’s teachings to suite some ulterior purpose (money and/or power) and because they are equally charismatic and have equal leadership qualities to the original man they are able to formulate a new understanding of the original teachings…and the original man is no longer around to defend his thoughts.
What if this continues, generation after generation with some new untruths being added each generation by different charismatic people who have selfish agendas (money and/or power).
And no one is the wiser.
Does the phrase…”what you don’t know won’t hurt you” still apply?
What is going to happen when one day all those lies are exposed?
If you believe in odds, then odds are they will be exposed.
What will happen to all those people that believe one way and then the real truth hits them in the face like a slap……will they believe the truth after so long and so many generations of lies?
I doubt it. It will probably take a lot more than a slap to get these people out of their fantasy state of mind.
So….back to my original point.
Is it OK to lie – even if no one is the wiser?
Go ahead and lie….who can stop you….but, the moral of the story is……
Don’t believe everything you hear because everybody lies and some of those lies are believable, depending on the liar that told it.
Do your research. Think for yourself. Don’t take all information presented as fact – as fact. Use your head and your heart. Don’t go into things blindly. Observe human nature and learn about yourself through your observations. Learning about yourself enables you to trust your heart and mind – which is all you have to go by.
I think you get my point.
I don’t know about you, but I want to live within truth…..not fantasy….and I can’t control the behavior of others so I better learn how to discern between these two things…….because what you don’t know CAN hurt YOU!!!
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