I get a lot of feedback on posts about looks and weight issues so I am going to add another to the many that I have already (see below for the links).
First of all, I want to start with saying that there is nowhere that you will ever be able to quote me saying that I think that looks don’t matter. They do matter if not for the mere fact that you want the person you are with to be attracted to you.
But…….that doesn’t mean that cookie cutter looks matter.
Why are we so consumed with spending so much time, energy and money when it comes to altering our image to suit what television, movies, magazines and advertising tell us that we should look like.
Doesn’t it occur to anyone they are all in on the joke……and the joke is that they are making money on our insecurities!!!!
Yes….that’s right. By spending so much time, energy and money on our attempt to look like Angelina Jolie, we are feeding into exactly what the people making our money want us to!!
Even worse is when we decide that what we look like defines us. In other words, when we have no confidence in anything besides our looks and we invest everything we have into looking like everyone else…….Guess what? You look like everyone else! (except maybe you have dark hair instead of blond hair?!?)
And….guest what else? If you are defined by your looks, your definition is that you are not special………you are just like everyone else!!!!
And one more surprise……guys perceive you (if you are one of these girls that emphasize your looks as your greatest asset) just like every other girl that does the same thing.
You do not look any different that any other girl that has a thin body, fat lips, big eyes, round ass, big breasts. shiny hair, small nose and clear skin.
And sadly, by emphasizing your looks as being your greatest asset, you leave yourself with nothing else to offer except for your greatest asset…..which is essentially only useful in one way…….and guys expect that you are just like the rest of them.
I don’t mean to sound judgmental if you do find yourself putting a lot of emphasis on your looks. In fact, I can’t be judgmental – because I was you 15 years ago.
I still want to remain attractive to my husband, but I know that my husband loves me exactly how I am – and that includes my brain and heart so I don’t bother myself with the cookie cutter details anymore.
I try to eat healthy and take care of myself, because health is obviously important. I also put a lot of emphasis on the health of my mind and my attitude in general…..because I believe that by doing this I am contributing significantly to my physical appearance.
And…..good news to those who feel trapped in the cookie cutter mentality and desire the freedom of being yourself…….
I feel attractive inside and out and I don’t spend a dime!!!
And my husband feels the same way.
For those of you who still think that being perfect means that men will like you better and you will have better opportunities in life….please read this post “I can’t admit I like chubby girls”
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