Anti-Obesity Ads Foster Shame

03 Feb

The weight subject is getting out of hand.   I know Michelle Obama likes to work out twice a day to get those arms to look the way they do….but not everybody is wired that way.

I don’t know about all of you, but if someone insists on reminding me about all of my flaws, I tend to (or at least I used to) focus on them as well.

Why do we insist on focusing on flaws – especially in our children?!?

I read this article today that really upset me.  We claim to want to deal with the bully problem in schools and at the same time put ads up like this one?

Does anyone out there think that this OK and will effectively shame our kids into losing weight?

Shame does not work.  Support and encouragement is the best medicine.  And sometimes….we might have to ignore the flaw and focus on the diamond.

I know families that are super fitness oriented and somehow they have one chubby kid in the mix.  Do you think reminding this kid daily that they are chubbier than the rest is going to help the situation?

And……who says that being as thin as possible is what we want our kids to achieve?  Why aren’t we focusing on brain and mind development?  Is that even important anymore – or is the only thing that matters is what we look like?

Did it occur to anyone that we all die one day and our bodies get buried 6 feet under – but our minds are filled with energy that never dies?!?

Instead of focusing on what is wrong with our children, let’s find something they can be proud of and maybe they will focus on that instead.

Divert their attention…..maybe that will work……Have we tried it yet?

Other posts you might like:

How Important is Being Thin?

8 Year Old Put Into Foster For Being Overweight

When a Parent Pushes a Career on Their Kid

Depression and the Solution

You Are Perfect – No Approval Necessary

What is a “Good” Mother?

Why is Life Unfair?

Life is full of controversy so here is a thought to live by:
Why is life unfair?
Because there’s never going to be a system that is fair to everyone.
Shannon Miller

Tags: , , , , ,

6 responses to “Anti-Obesity Ads Foster Shame

  1. wetherholt salon and spa

    February 3, 2012 at 5:48 pm

    Totally agree with your post. I’m getting really tired of obsession with weight in this country.

    • Peaceful Controversy

      February 3, 2012 at 6:08 pm

      Exactly..I think if emphasis on weight was toned down…there would be less of a problem. Everybody wants to feel good about themselves, but when a person obsesses about ANYTHING it most likely will backfire. Our kids need to understand how to feel good about themselves and have the experience of what that feels like – instead of us telling them what they are supposed to feel like.

  2. Boy Mom Blogger

    February 3, 2012 at 5:52 pm

    good post – these ads are a little harsh… but I do like the attention on childhood obesity because it’s not good for their health and – in most cases – it’s preventable. I think ‘we’ have to enhance our methods for shining light on the subject – which to me would also mean not to ‘shame’ the kids… esp since the goal is to teach life changing habits. I wouldn’t want kids to WANT to be in shape because they have been shamed – but I prefer kids to WANT to live a healthy lifestyle

    • Peaceful Controversy

      February 3, 2012 at 6:00 pm

      Absolutely. Kids should want to be in shape and should want to feel good about themselves – including their appearance, but they need to get there without being pressured or shamed – and this seems to be the current preferred method of taking care of this problem.
      It feels good to be in shape and be healthy, that I am not arguing…but the emphasis on it is what I have a problem with.
      Thanks for visiting my blog and I’m going to check yours out right now!!

  3. Cheryl Baumgartner

    February 4, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    Where exactly is Child Protective services in all of this? If a parent posted a photo of their child with these captions, CPS would be all over the place yelling child abuse for the emotional damage caused to that child. Yet here we have someone using this as a ‘PSA’ and it’s quite alright.

    Furthermore I know plenty of chubby kids who outgrew the ‘baby-fat’ just like I know plenty of childhood ‘toothpicks’ who could step on a scale today and make it cry for mercy. We ourselves need to stop buying into the brainwashing and BS. The only important thing is that your child is healthy-thin does not equal healthy. There are plenty of thin people out there that are totally out of shape. In case anyone has forgotten skinny people have strokes, heart attacks and high blood pressure too.

    • Peaceful Controversy

      February 5, 2012 at 6:26 am

      It’s crazy that people don’t see it that way. For some reason, even when the argument is presented exactly as you have presented it, many people still insist that thin is healthier and our kids need to be “healthy”. And yes, I don’t understand how these ads are not considered child abuse…..but am I surprised?..NO. Being thin is pushed as though it is a sin to not to be thin. It is just another form of brainwash that sells. Being thin and products that profess weight loss make a lot of money. The “thin” industry is thriving (Hollywood, fashion, weight loss pills, medical procedures, dietetic food, gym memberships…..etc. etc..). What would happen to the economy if being “thin” wasn’t quite as in?
      What if being our natural selves was OK? What would happen to the beauty, health and diet industries?


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: