I just read the following articles and, though they were meant to be funny, I really want to talk about how a lot of people meet (or think they are going to meet) the opposite sex nowadays.
These articles are cute descriptions of the different types of guys and girls that can be found at the club scene. What is funny about the two articles is that our of the 6 types of guys, there is not one type that is described as being into finding a proper partner. Generally, conquests is what is on these guys’ mind’s (girls, drugs, ego gratification…)
Out of the girls….attention is high on the list of things they are looking for – not suitable mates.
I get it that it is not a secret that you won’t find a potential spouse by going to clubs every night, but….the fact that most of us have enjoyed the game at some point in our life does say something about the nature of man and woman. And…..the fact that clubs are still highly successful everywhere, hints to the fact that we are quite comfortable in our natural roles.
It is clear to me that men and women were created with certain inherent traits that are near impossible to get rid of – no matter how much the opposite sex wants us to.
Men are hunters and women wanted to be hunted…
In my opinion, in order to have a successful relationship, we need to be able to build one upon this premise.
In other words, women cannot allow men to take them for granted.
We must dangle the meat – and the meat may not always be our physical bodies….in fact quality men will love the mind of a woman…..
And… men must provide women with enough attention so that she feels wanted so that she will continue to dangle the meat.
This is the formula for a good, long lasting relationship. The variables must make sense though….
For example, I would not suggest that sex be the premise of the relationship for the following reasons…
A man that only requires a lot of sex will need to find a woman that is highly sexual. A woman that is highly sexual is generally the type that needs A LOT of attention. This is catch 22 because in order to keep the guy hunting, the woman has to dangle the meat. Dangling the meat in this case requires the woman to withhold sexually sometimes. However, the man requires a lot of sex and will hunt for it wherever he can find it. Nowadays it is quite easy to find it.
On the other hand, giving sex too freely could end up to be boring after a while and the man will go on a new hunt for some fresh meat – unless an alternative arrangement is worked out….but then the woman’s attention requirement comes into play. Women generally cannot share attention – especially one that has a need for a lot of it…..
But…..if the variables in the formula are a man looking for a woman of virtue and integrity and a woman looking for a man of virtue and integrity….the chances of success are much higher.
In a sea of over sexed men and women with extreme attention requirements, virtue and integrity are traits that are rare these days making the hunt much more challenging and finding this person a rare catch.
A good man will guard that rare catch with his life by giving her his heart. All he will want for her is her happiness and he will live to give that to her….
As for the woman…..we all know how hard it is to find a good man. “Dangling the meat” in this sense sounds inappropriate, but after finding a man of quality, a woman will willingly do anything to keep him interested.
He will view his catch as a valuable prize and she will appreciate being viewed that way and ensure that he continues to view her that way forever.
No need for “clubs” in this arrangement…..
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