At one point in my life…..this was the most important thing to me.
I hate to admit it, but its true. I wanted to be skinny so bad that my entire life revolved around it. In fact, I married a guy who felt the same way…..that being skinny was kind of like a testament to being in control of yourself and if you aren’t in control of yourself………what kind of person are you?…..
The sad part is that I was NEVER thin! When my first husband married me I had lost a significant amount of weight by going to the gym like an army sergeant, but I was still not “thin”. I always had (and obviously always will have) big breasts and a big ass. At my lightest (and this is after avoiding fat and going to the gym 5 days a week, 2 hours a day) I was 5’4, 137 lbs.
I felt like a model at that weight. But the minute I had babies all my hard work went up in smoke. I tried to get there again numerous times over the last 16 years, but, my 137 lb days are over.
So how do I justify this to myself? Wasn’t I the one who thought that if I can’t control myself enough to be thin then I must be out of control?
Trust me…..it took years (and I am not even fully there) to realize that weight does not matter. As long as you are healthy, what you weigh doesn’t matter.
And – I mean in every aspect of your life, there will be no place where weight matters – unless you make it matter by doing what I did….making an aspect of your personality.
For example, I have noticed that guys worth dating don’t really care that much about a few extra pounds if the girl is honest, loving and fun to be with. Guys worth dating are looking for the same thing girls worth dating are looking for – a partnership with someone they like and can trust. These elements alone produce attraction.
You know what I mean because we all have met people that we initially thought were unattractive and the more we got to know them, the more attractive they became.
So, besides health and attracting good men, what other reasons could there be to worry (and drive yourself crazy over it) about not being Hollywood “thin”?
Maybe you are worried about other people referring to you as “chubby” -or- not thin enough -or- that you don’t do enough exercise- or- you must be a lazy person -or- no man is going to want you -or- you eat unhealthy -or- you have no self control -or- not liking you because you don’t look as good as they want you to look……………………………………………….
If any of this is the case…..your problem is not your weight. Your problem is worrying about what other people think too much!
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